"Just another good-looking rebel who plays by his own rules"
Harvey, I don't know what to say. I've never been through one.But, I've been around long enough to know (my 3 siblings have been through 4 of them total) that all feelings on the subject are mixed at this point.Walk on.
BTW...your use of the "failed marriages" deal caused me to think.Lots of "failed marriages" end up at 50th anniversary celebrations. Trust me...I know...one set of grandparents, and my in-laws made it to 50. None of the four involved cared very much for their spouses at 50 years of wedded bliss...and when the first one to croak croaked...there weren't too many tears from the bereft. So, "failed marriage" might have varying definitions, depending on the shoes you're walking in.
Sorry for the pain, pal. Now it's one foot in front of the other until you've walked right through it.
Welcome to the club, bro. Marriage to some is like the mumps. Once you have it you're usually innoculated for life. To others, it's like pneumonia, once you get it you're more likely to get it again. Let's hope you belong to the former group, because the latter tend to escalate their troubles.I got lucky the second time around and married up, but most do not, making the same bad choices they did the first time. You're not stupid, and by this time in your life you're probably not as driven by your testes as you might have been earlier. So you can probably live a pretty normal and happy life, and I hope that phase of your life begins soon.
Been there, done that. I hope you are able to pick up and go forward. It is worth the trouble to keep on trucking.
Sorry. My "successful marriage" is going on 26 years. One of my regrets is not divorcing her a long time ago. im stuck with her now. Way bast the return-by date.--Hale
very sorry. divorce sucks. (found you thru prof hale)Ame
I was going to say what Andy said. You're just of the 50% that have it logged. I know too many that made it to 50 years that we all think should not have, my paternal grandparents included. I know many married people that are miserable. Is that a success?
I divorced after 25 years. Best thing I ever done.
Even when divorce is 'best', it's still a crock of emotional shit to go through (speaking from experience, dammit). One day at a time...
Everyone else has said what I might have said so I'll just say, I'm so sorry you had to go through it and I hope your life going forward is wonderful.
What took you so long? - Basil, Class of '95
I'm actually at a loss, much like I was when I heard the process was starting. I just hope that your life will continue to get better and happier.